Color Hair from Dark to Light

You cannot just buy the lightest boxed hair color from the drugstore and expect to look like Gwen Stefani. That is not how things like this work. You also cannot just schedule a color appointment at a salon and expect to leave three hours later with shimmeringly gorgeous, icy locks either. All of these expectations will just lead to heartbreak and a harsh reality that is not so pretty: more brassy and less sassy hair.
You would think that virgin dark hair, that has never been treated with a chemical before, would take well to the lightening process. After all, your hair is presumably healthy. Think again. Every day environmental stressors, certain shampoos and conditioners, as well as heating tools, can wreak havoc on your hair and you may not even be aware of it. Curling irons, hair dryers, flat irons; no matter how much you try to protect your follicles with heat sprays and serums, those products could actually be leaving you with unnecessary buildup. Thus, it could make coloring your hair more of a process than you had expected.

Let's be real. Damage is inevitable when you color your hair, especially if you go more than two or three shades lighter than your current color. Any chemical can cause hair damage, ruining pH balance, possibly leaving your hair dry and sticky. That is why going lighter needs to be a process, one that you are dedicated to and with the understanding of why it has to occur gradually and not happen in one sitting.
Usually, it is suggested that you aim for a lighter shade of brown to begin with while adding subtle highlights, maybe a caramel ombré. Allow yourself to get accustomed to the lightness. Depending on the color you come into a salon with, the hairdresser will tell you how light your highlights can be. Highlights are a great start to becoming a beautiful blonde.

If you lack patience and are determined to go from dark to light in one day (maybe you have seen a lot of "America's Next Top Model" makeovers), it is possible but could take up to ten hours to achieve and can be quite costly. If your hair has been colored before, especially to a darker level, you will most likely need to have the color removed before you proceed with the lightening process.
Again, highlights are a great balance for the interim as you are transitioning from dark to light. Once you have achieved your desired level of lightness, which could take several months, but it's better to be safe than sorry, you will need touch-ups every four to twelve weeks. Hair grows about a quarter of an inch every month, but tends to grow faster in the summer months, so it really just depends on how quickly your roots grow and how much regrowth you are willing to let show.

It can actually be a really cool process to watch the hair transition, and you may find someplace in the middle that makes you happy. But if you are determined to go blonde, just don't do it at home because your hair will most likely turn all shades of red, orange, and beyond, unless that is the look you're going for.
It is an investment to make a drastic change step by step, but it is more than worth it in the long run when the result is beautiful, healthy hair. Now, go out with your knowledge and lighten up. Have fun and see what's in store for you as a blonde!
See also:
Going blonde
Hair coloring Q&A
The disadvantages of bleaching your hair